A quick thought:
When you’re trying to outsmart someone, and it’s working, always suppose that you’re being outsmarted. Likewise, when you’re winning in a fight, always suppose that you’re actually losing. When having an argument, suppose that you may be wrong.
If you do all these things and always keep your head up for the possibility of you losing, then, when it really does happen, you’ll be ready for that option. So keep your head out of the sand and always suppose that it’s actually you that’s being defeated and outsmarted.